Sexual Health

How To Talk to Your Partner About Your Sexual Issues

Whether we are in a brand new relationship or have been married for forty years, when it comes to talking with our partners about sex, panic can often set in.

When we imagine the potential for rejection and drama, taking a risk like that with someone we love can often feel too great. This is probably the reason so few of us do try to share the really difficult stuff of our sexual lives. Here are ideas on raising those hard-to-raise issues.
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When is the Right Time to Give Him Some Direction?

As my friend Sean says, when it comes to a guy performing oral sex, if you have to ask “what do you like,” it’s already too late and you’re asking the wrong question (Sean likes to joke, “the real question you should be asking is, ‘Can I get you a cab’?”). But I disagree, and so do my other friends. When a sexual relationship is starting out, sometimes you have to ask.

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Reasons Why An Erection May Go Away

There are few absolute statements you can make about a penis. One might be that penises are unpredictable and unreliable. You may have 100 experiences where your penis (or the penis you're with) responds as you expect and responds in concert with the way the rest of the body feels. But that doesn't mean that the 101st time an erection will not give way to a soft penis before its time. Continue reading →

How Real Is the Sex You See in Pornography?

Because visual pornography seems to be a part of many people’s early exposure to sexual material (a “fact” that isn’t really verifiable, but nonetheless is taken as true) it is often considered a form of sex education. And because, as adults, most of us don’t get the chance to talk honestly and openly about sex with a wide range of people, many adults continue to believe that what they see in pornographic films represents common sexual practice.

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The right personal lubricant = better sex!

It's not just a health matter (anal sex without lube can be a risky business for all concerned) – it's a pleasure thing. A well-chosen lubricant can dramatically enhance your sexual experience and make you forever wonder why didn't you use it before.

Sex without lube is like driving without tyres. It's just about possible, but you won't find it terribly comfortable, you might damage some key equipment and you won't get anywhere very fast.

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How Research Measures Average Penis Size

Determining the average penis size for a group of males, let alone for men around the world, is more complicated than you might imagine. Unfortunately most information about average penis size comes from popular culture and not science. Let's start by considering some figures from science.

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Temperature Play Tips For Cool Summer Sex

You've seen this onscreen sex trope before: A man (it's always a man) slowly drags an ice cube over a woman's naked body, giving the camera an excuse to linger on said naked body. (Think of 9½ Weeks, Do the Right Thing, or any number of copycats.) This move is an example of temperature play, a set of techniques used in both BDSM and vanilla encounters to provoke a sensual response through the application of high or low temperatures. Continue reading →

20+ Things You Didn’t Know About Penises – But Should!

I’m sure that a bunch of you out there think with your penis, but how much time is spent thinking about them? Actually, don’t answer that. Instead, let’s just safely assume that you know nothing about your member except where to stick it (you’ve probably messed that one up a few times, too). Here’s 20 important facts you might have learned in Health class if you weren’t so busy looking at the ‘Breast Examination’ section. Continue reading →

How Erections Work

When most people read the word "erection," they probably think of a penis, specifically, a penis that is hard. Penile erections are without a doubt the most talked-about erections in the body, and below you can learn just how a male erection works. However, it's worth knowing that a penis isn't the only part of the body that gets erect.

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Kegel Exercises For Men

Controlling ejaculation is a huge issue for many men, one that they are often too embarrassed to bring up. How do I control myself? How can I last longer, be firmer and do better? The answer is working out your pubococcygeus muscles (PC) muscles, by doing Kegel exercises for men.
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Kegel Exercises for Women

Kegel exercises strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which support the uterus, bladder and bowel. You can do Kegel exercises discreetly just about anytime, whether you're driving in your car, sitting at your desk or relaxing on the couch. You can even do Kegel exercises when you're pregnant. Start by understanding what Kegel exercises can do for you — then follow step-by-step instructions for contracting and relaxing your pelvic floor muscles.
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Should I Be Worried My Partner is Faking Orgasms?

If you’re worried your partner is faking orgasms, the only real remedy you have is to ask. There is no way to know for sure if someone is faking an orgasm. Even if he was, even if there was some sort of device you could use covertly to distinguish real from fake, what would you then do with the information? You’d have to talk about it eventually.

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Reasons Why You May Not Be Having Orgasms

There are many reasons why someone may feel like they can’t orgasm. The first thing that’s important to know is that just because you aren’t having orgasms, and even if you’ve never had an orgasm, that doesn’t necessarily mean you can’t have an orgasm. It’s also worth pointing out that there are lots of great sexual acts that don’t involve orgasms. But if you’re goal is to orgasm, read on.

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