Controlling ejaculation is a huge issue for many men, one that they are often too embarrassed to bring up. How do I control myself? How can I last longer, be firmer and do better? The answer is working out your pubococcygeus muscles (PC) muscles, by doing Kegel exercises for men.
Kegel exercises will help you control your orgasms and ejaculations and last for longer
PC muscles control the flow of semen and urine, the firmness of your penis during erection and the shooting power of your ejaculation. They are important, and if kept very strong, will see you into your golden years with a fantastical hard on. The great thing about Kegel exercises for men is that you can do them anywhere, anytime -- and nobody will know the difference.
You will be able to have better sex by being able to better control your orgasms and ejaculations, and last for longer, plus you may get the added kudos of being able to hold up a wet towel with your erection if you practice these Kegel exercises for men.
How do I know where my PC muscles are?
The easiest way to find them is to stop your flow of urine next time you go to the bathroom. Another way to isolate them is to put your finger inside your anus; when you contract the right muscles, your anus will tighten. However you decide to find them, once they are found you need to practice feeling exactly where they are located -- it is easy to overcompensate for weak muscles by using the abdominals, buttocks or thighs. These must all stay relaxed when doing Kegel exercises for men.
Now, on to the daily Kegel exercises for men.
Note: These exercises are done hands-free. You do not "squeeze" anything with your hands as they are all done with your PC muscles.
Kegel session 1
Quickly clench and release repeatedly for 10 seconds.
Take a 10-second break between sets.
Clench and release repeatedly for 5 seconds.
Take a 5-second break between sets.
Tighten and hold your PC muscle for 30 seconds.
Take a 30 second break between sets.
That's it for today, but repeat these Kegel exercises for men daily for one week.
Kegel session 2
Clench and hold your PC muscle for 5 seconds.
Release and repeat.
Quickly clench and release your PC muscle 10 times.
Clench and release your PC muscle alternatively in long and short bursts for counts of 10.
Tighten your PC muscle and hold for as long as you can. Aim for 2 minutes.
You can do the session 2 Kegel exercises for men for a week; however, feel free to progress if you feel you are strong enough. Remember that these are strengthening exercises, so start off slowly and build up, just like you would with any other muscle.
We have two more sessions of Kegel exercises for men and some FAQs…
Kegel session 3
Sets: 30 (work your way up to more than 100)
Clench and release your PC muscle over and over again.
Tighten as much as you possibly can (ensure that you are only squeezing your PC muscle).
Hold for 20 seconds.
Take a 30-second break between sets.
Kegel session 4
Sets: As many as you like.
Clench and release your PC muscle for 2 minutes every day.
Work your way up to doing 20 minutes 3 times a day -- you should eventually be able to perform 200 repetitions per session.
When can I do Kegels?
You can do Kegel exercises for men anytime, anywhere; there are very few places you can't practice this. It is not recommended, however, to do these exercises when you are trying to concentrate on something else, as you may find yourself quite distracted. A great place to do them is on the couch in front of the TV or while stuck at traffic lights.
How will I know when something is happening?
You will know because you will be able to feel it, and so will your lover. A harder penis, better control and longer lasting sex are all benefits of having strong PC muscles. There is absolutely no excuse for not having these important sexual muscles in excellent working order. If you have trouble with premature ejaculation, try these exercises before you head to the pharmacy or your health professional.
What not to do
Don't overdo it. It is often tempting to throw yourself into something head on, especially when it means better sex. However, as with any other muscle you are working out, you need to give it some time to heal between sessions. This means regular rests and not overdoing it. If you follow the exercise schedule as you see fit, you should soon be great -- listen to your body. It knows what it's talking about!
Don't use any other muscle during the exercises. It is sometimes difficult to isolate the PC muscles, especially if they are weak. Be aware of what you are doing, and if you feel like you are contracting any other muscles (mainly abdominals and thighs), then you need to relax and start again. Just remember that it might take a few weeks to build up some strength. Keep at it.
Kegels for women
Everyone can do these exercises, and they improve sex for everyone. If you and your partner do these exercises, you will both see and feel the difference within weeks. Women will have more intense orgasms and be able to "squeeze" your penis while it's inside her. Read our guide for womem here.
You can do a little sexual experiment with her by resting your erection inside of her vagina, but not thrusting. Both of you can flex your PC muscles -- this stimulates her G-spot, and tickles you too. This is a fun way to test your progress.